7 Simple Self-Care That Actually Work: Show Up for Yourself Today

When we hear selfcare our minds go to some luxury reserved spa day(s), a trip abroad, a shopping spree and all kinds of luxury. Yes, all the aforementioned are selfcare but self-care isn't just about aesthetics. It's about intentionally checking in with yourself and doing the little things that help you function, heal, grow and be productive.

Because truthfully? You can't pour from an empty cup and that to-do list you’re always chasing will still be there tomorrow.

Life gets busy, between work, relationship, bills and never-ending list-of-things-to do, it's easy to put yourself last. So, if you've been running on fumes lately. This one is for you; an easy self-care routine and simple self-care habits to practice at home even for a busy person like you.

What Self-Care Actually Is:

Let’s clear this up real quick: Self-care isn’t being “lazy.” It’s not selfish. And it’s not reserved for when you’re already falling apart.

It’s about taking small, intentional actions that support your:

• Mental health

• Emotional balance

• Physical wellness

• Spiritual wellness.

Taking care of this aspect of you and prioritizing their well-being is the best self-care you can award yourself. Because it is the negligence of these areas that depression, sickness, and all sorts of mental health issues creeps in.

Realistic Self-Care Tips (that don't involve spending 20k)

Here is how we can self-love and practice self-care.

1. Saying No Without Explaining

You don't need a PowerPoint presentation to justify why you are not going out, taking that call or simply refusing not to do that task or request.

Saying no doesn’t make you mean—it makes you mindful. Prioritize what truly matters and let go of people-pleasing. Learning to say no is a form of self-love.

2. Rest-Guilt-Free

Yes rest without apology. You are allowed to take naps, sleep in and sleep early and binge watch that show you always wanted to. Stop glorifying burnouts, you are not a machine. One of the best things you can do for your mental health is to rest without guilt.

3. Digital Detox (Even for Only 2 Hours)

Take a social media break. Mute toxic accounts and turn off notifications. Reconnect with your own thoughts instead of drowning in everyone else’s highlight reels. Log out. Mute. Reconnect with you!

4. Create A "You Routine (a Simple Joy List)

   

Even 15minutes count

• Journaling

• Listening to music

• Taking a quite walk

• Watching movies

You can make a list of 5things that makes you happy like watching tv, calling a friend. When life gets heavy, go that list and do one. Don't forget to get some fresh air too.

5. Eat Like You Love Yourself

Am not talking about some strict diet. Just listen to your body and taste buds. Drink water, eat that which makes you feel alive. That chocolate? Enjoy it mindfully with no guilt but please don't make eating sweet things an habit.

6. Treat Yourself Without Going Broke

You can easily take yourself for a treat without breaking the bank. For instance,

• Home spa day with candles and music

  

• Watch comfort shows guilt-free

• Buy yourself a treat of N1500 just because. I want to believe everyone can afford this for themselves.

• DIY facials using honey, oats, cucumber and tumeric

  

• Have a lazy day. It's different from resting, you just lie comfortable in your couch or bed doing that one or two things that makes you happy with food and snacks by your side

(I love having lazy days).

7. Talk Nicely to Yourself.

Some of us would never speak to a friend the way we speak to ourselves sometimes. So stop the self-shaming and self-belittling and start practicing grace. You’re doing the best you can—and that’s enough.

Signs You are Overdue for Self-care

• Constant fatigue (even after sleeping)

• Feeling snappy or easily irritated

• No motivation for things you enjoy

• Always saying “yes” even when you mean “no”

• Neglecting hygiene or skipping meals

  
  

If any of these hit home, take this as your official permission to pause.

Final Reminder: You Need and Deserve Rest Too.

You don’t have to earn self-care by suffering.

You don’t need to be falling apart to deserve love — especially from yourself.

Taking care of you is the most productive thing you’ll do all day. Try adding one or two of these self care tips and habits into your routine this week. As you have read, show up for yourself

Let's Talk:

What does self-care look like to you lately? How do you practice self-care? Drop your go to ritual or tip in the comments. And if this helped, share it with someone who you think needs a reminder.

Favour Fineman